A letter from Ms. Millennial...

There is a lack of bravery on our part when it comes to fully expressing our inner-most thoughts, experiences, and struggles.  The majority of us will use a media platform to post a vague update on our page; it gets remembered for a day, receives a comment or two, and then never to be seen again. We know so little about so many people.  How are we ever able to cultivate deep new friendships, relationships, and work opportunities? 

 No matter what we say out loud to protect ourselves… we care. We care what other people think- employers, employees, co-workers, people we admire, family, friends, and sometimes even strangers. We filter or omit because: “is this politically correct to say? What will this person think about me if I tell them what I’m truly thinking? I don’t want to look like I’m complaining… Will my family view me as ____ if I believe a certain way? Does everyone experience this?”

What holds us back from sharing joy, love, success, or growth? How about the old, “I don’t want them to think I’m bragging… ugh, social media couples are obviously over-compensating- I don’t wanna look like that… I don’t want to rub my happiness in my struggling friend’s face… I can’t have my peers thinking I’m some male-hating feminist… my family is going through a hard time so I feel guilty sharing stories about my amazing vacation…” The list of reasons can go on forever.

Isn’t it ironic that the very thing we all deeply crave is immediately smothered by accidental self-sabatoge?  Isn’t it lame how we create pressures on ourselves to show society only what we think is “acceptable” on social media platforms? Isn’t it interesting that we are scared to show ALL of who we are, when it’s the one thing we secretly want most- to be FULLY, unapologetically us? Why are our lives shared with others through a “filtered” lens?  No one can live up to that expectation all of the time…

This blog is meant to do the exact opposite of our instinctual social persona- MS. MILLENNIAL is an outlet to read and explore ALL emotional peaks and valleys. It's an outlet to exploit social pressures, and to advise on falling in and out of love with yourself, your job, and your relationships. It's a platform to share ridiculous and hilarious stories of life as a millennial,  and to share products, knowledge, and personal experiences.  It's a blog that finds a way to balance it all- all through the transparent lens of the millennial society.

What is a millennial? Probably not the age you think- by societal definition, we are the population born between the years (give or take) of 1980-1994. We make up 75.4 million of people in the world. But what are we exactly? A lot of negative and positive attributes are used to describe us… all very… well, definitive.  What are some that come to mind? Lazy, vain, career-hungry, narcissistic, entitled, lacking loyalty, lacking communication skills, no manners, we have it too easy etc. Hey, wait a minute…

Now, I’m sure we all know people in every generation and both sexes who fit into one or many of these categories, yes?  So… is the term “millennial” just a mindset? A stereotype? Even if 30 million people fit into that stereotype... there are still 45.4 million others that don't. I'm here to showcase those people, and inspire others to live their lives with humility, class, courage, and strength.  Our lives in this day and age are filled with complexities and juxtapositions- we need balance, but we want adventure. We want support, but the desire to have our own strength.  We are expected to be financially secure, but required to spend obscene amounts on college tuition in order to get a less-than-minimum-wage job that barely pays our student loan debt let alone a home loan. (Am I riiiiight?) We strive for independence in order to comfortably concede to co-dependency with our life partner. Who's to say you can't have it all? To me, THAT is the ultimate millennial mindset.  Instead of just "staying afloat"... let's figure out a way to break the cycle, therefore erasing the stereotype.  Let's stay courageous and communicate with one another.  You aren’t alone on this journey… in fact, there are 75 million of us. ;-) 

Each week, myself and guest-bloggers will share their thoughts, projects, aspirations, struggles, and victories.  MS. MILLENNIAL is meant to encourage you to experience or express your life the way that you WANT to… not how you think you SHOULD.